WHY I STOPPED DRINKING: PART 2 (THE EMOTIONAL)
Let’s explore the emotional challenges and rewards of living sober. Discover how sobriety reshaped my emotions, relationships, and self-awareness, creating space for clarity and growth.
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Image: Inga Seliverstova
I started drinking early on in life, like so many people do. Over the years, I only stopped once for a year, just to prove I could. Then I went right back to it. What struck me when I stopped drinking for good was realizing that I had never truly lived as an adult with a sober mind. Who was I, really, without alcohol?I stopped drinking because I realized the enjoyment had worn off, and the emotional rollercoaster in the days after started to take its toll. Feelings were harder to manage at work, and the highs and lows felt steeper than ever. I knew that if I kept drinking, I wouldn’t be able to manage my emotions in the way I wanted or needed to.FACING THE EMOTIONAL CRUTCHES
At first, I realized how deeply tied drinking was to my emotions. A glass of wine after a hard day. A celebratory toast with friends. A drink to ease social anxiety as a natural introvert.When I stopped, it became clear that I had been sidestepping the work of processing my emotions fully.
Alcohol had been a crutch, one that kept me from truly sitting with discomfort or even joy. I had to build an entirely new relationship with myself. The idea felt daunting, but I was ready.And it wasn’t easy. I noticed that when I felt down or triggered, my first thought was often to call a friend and meet for a drink. It was fascinating how automatic that impulse was. Without alcohol, my emotions felt sharper, harder to soothe.
Image: Inga Seliverstova
But I leaned into the discomfort allowing myself to feel it. Learning to soothe an inner child that was throwing tantrums. My first step was identifying triggers, whether happy or sad then finding new ways to cope. This included embracing being perceived as "boring" at social gatherings and even saying “no thanks” to invitations when I needed alone time. I had to accept that this was part of who I was becoming.The rewards, though, were undeniable. I had more time, more money, and a newfound sense of control over my impulses.REDISCOVERING MYSELF
Sobriety helped me uncover parts of myself that had been muted. I rediscovered my love for staying home and reading, something I adored as a child but had neglected over the years. I reflected deeply on my boundaries with friends and family, realizing how often I let myself be depleted.The changes were noticeable to those around me. My relationships shifted, sometimes uncomfortably, as people adjusted to the new me. But I was committed to honoring my needs.The journey wasn’t without stumbles. I missed exploring new bars and envied others choosing French over Italian wine at dinner. I felt awkward and isolated at times.
But I found new rituals. Coffee became my wine. I sought out cafes like I once did bars, journaling in quiet corners and treasuring the experience. To my surprise, friends started joining me for coffee, appreciating the escape from alcohol-centric outings.Sobriety also gave me the time and clarity to focus on other areas of my life. I deepened my meditation practice, became more intentional with my nutrition, and pushed my limits in Pilates, discovering what my newly sober body could achieve.THE GIFT OF SOBRIETY
Years into this journey, I can say sobriety is the best gift I’ve ever given myself. It’s unlocked a resilience I didn’t know I had through better emotional regulation. My focus is sharper, and my relationships have flourished because I have.Sobriety allowed me to reclaim my emotional world, one I felt slipping away. I face challenges with more clarity and self-awareness. I’ve been able to forgive old wounds, including my role in past relationships, and finally put them to rest. In doing so, I’ve created space for new people and experiences to enter my life.WHAT SOBRIETY TAUGHT ME ABOUT LOVE
Developing emotional fortitude is something we should all strive for, whether through sobriety or other means. The key is to give your emotions space to breathe, whether they’re grief, anger, fear, or joy.The most profound emotion I had to navigate, though, was love…the love of self.
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Emotional Gains You Can Find in Sobriety
1. Feel more grounded and authentic without emotions dulled by alcohol.
2. Clear your mind for sharper decisions and renewed focus.
3. Build deeper and more honest connections in your relationships.
4. Discover the strength to process and embrace your emotions fully.
What might you uncover about yourself if you gave your emotions the space to breath?Join the conversation, tell us about your experience in the comments!Missed the first part check it out here: WHY I STOPPED DRINKING PART 1
WHAT HARVARD TAUGHT ME ABOUT LEADERSHIP AND MYSELF
Leadership is more than about being the boss. It’s a mindset anyone can embrace. I’ll share what I learned during my time at Harvard Business School’s Advancing Women of Color in Leadership.
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I never thought I’d see myself at Harvard. For someone who didn’t shine academically as a kid, walking through the iconic gates felt surreal. The buzz of other students, the click of my Celine loafers hitting the cobblestones, and the sheer history of the place reminded me just how far I’d come. What grounded me in that moment was something more personal: a sense of belonging, growth, and the quiet confidence that I was ready to lead in my own way, proving to myself that I was always capable.-
Leadership isn’t about being the boss. It’s a mindset anyone can embrace. During my time at Harvard Business School’s Advancing Women of Color in Leadership Executive Program, I learned that leadership is about showing up, owning your space, and lifting others. In this post, I’ll share what I learned and how you can embrace leadership in your own way. 
Leadership Isn’t About Titles
Last year, I took some time for myself—away from friends, social media, and even writing on this very blog. I wanted to develop and understand how to become the leader I knew I could be. For a long time, I thought leadership meant managing a team, being in charge, or having a big title. But during the Harvard course, I learned otherwise. Leadership can be found in small, meaningful acts that bring value to those around us, actions that anyone can step into.
As I sat in my dorm room preparing for a session, with papers spread out on the desk, I devoured a pre-read about what’s called a “Tempered Radical”. A tempered radical is someone who makes change happen quietly, with persistence and purpose. This idea stood out to me because it made leadership feel approachable. It showed me that leadership doesn’t have to be loud or at the head of the line. It can be as simple as quietly holding things together no matter where you stand. As someone who prefers being discrete, this resonated with me. For the first time, I saw that my quieter style of leadership was just as effective as any other.
The Power of Shared Experiences
While the course content was compelling, the real magic was in the community. Eighty-nine brilliant women of color, each with stories of resilience, gathered together in a way that felt rare and profound. When our professor spoke about the unique challenges we face as women of color in leadership, the collective sighs in the room were a shared release. There was an unspoken understanding that we had all felt this struggle deeply.
What made the program even more special were the morning check-ins over coffee with my dorm mates before classes. These sessions felt safe, honest, and real. A space where we could speak openly about our wins and setbacks.
I shared details about my unconventional career journey of moving from entrepreneurship in the creative world of fashion to a more corporate setting. In turn, I listened to their stories with intent. Their experiences were layered with wisdom, emotion, and resilience.
Looking back, I realize we were already acting as leaders, even if I didn’t see it then.
Dreams Don’t Always Look the Way You Imagine
In high school, art was the only class I excelled in. I tried my best in everything else and was average at best. Toward the end of senior year, I enviously watched classmates apply to what we called the “big schools.” I felt like that path wasn’t for me, and for a long time, I believed it.
Life had a way of leading me to a dream I hadn’t even dared to imagine. Applying for and being accepted into this leadership program felt like stepping through a door I didn’t even know existed. Standing in the sunlight on the Harvard Business School campus, I realized that life sometimes doesn’t go as planned, but it can still lead to places we never imagined.
As I mentioned in my post, “Why I Hate and Love Fashion,” sometimes we must be open to the unexpected. In that post, I reflected on the importance of pivoting and embracing change, choosing to let go of what no longer serves us and trusting in what’s ahead. This leadership program was a reminder of that lesson: letting go, trusting opportunities, and being willing to evolve are all forms of leadership. For me, it meant setting a new direction, being courageous, and leading change within myself. By daring to turn old dreams into reality, I learned that leadership starts with believing in yourself and your ability to grow.
IS THERE A LEADER IN YOU?
Today, I can say I earned a Harvard certificate, but more importantly, I transformed how I see myself. It’s about showing up authentically and acting with intention, no matter your role or title. Whether you’re leading a team, a project, your family, or even just yourself, the power to lead is within you.
5 Takeaways to Help You Lead in Your Own Way
1. Leadership starts with the actions you take every day.
2. Quiet change-makers have the power to make a big impact.
3. Shared experiences can unlock new perspectives and possibilities.
4. Life’s detours often lead to unexpected and meaningful destinations.
5. The first step to leading is showing up for yourself.
Leadership starts with showing up. How will you show up for yourself today?
Join the conversation, share in the comments!
For more on personal development, check out my earlier post on embracing change: WHY I HATE AND LOVE FASHION
I KNOW WHAT YOU DID LAST SUMMER: MYKONOS
Spend a few days with me at the ultra exclusive Soho Roc Hours in Mykonos Greece.
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MYKONOS
There’s nothing like the sunsets in the Greek islands! I recently made my fourth trip to one of my favorite Greek islands, Mykonos. This bustling pearl of an island is mostly known for its party scene, luxury settings, whitewashed houses, alleyways and chapels.
I’ve always gone there for the amazing party scene. Lounging on the day beds listening to sunset tunes by world renown DJs spinning at one of my favorite beach bar spots Scorpios. But this time around I wanted to experience the island in a different way. While I had every intention of having a quiet vacation, I ended up booking a hotel located smack dab in the middle of the action, between Paraga and Paradise beach, and within walking distance of Scorpios. But that didn’t stop me from getting some well-deserved R&R.
THE ROC HOUSE
I had been dying to stay at one of the exclusive gems of the Soho House chain, the Soho Roc House. This member’s only hotel is only 15 minutes away from the airport and sits in the heart of the Cycladic village by the Aegean Sea. Because it was the last week of the summer the property was serine and peaceful. The absolute antithesis of the season's high point.
I booked the medium size room which was tastefully decorated with a natural color scheme and handmade fabrics from the surrounding area which created an atmosphere of calmness. The room had a veranda with a garden view where every morning I had my favorite Greek yogurt and honey.
The scenery at this property is truly like in a film. The restaurant sits right next to a gorgeous saltwater infinity pool which overlooks the sea. I spent my days lounging, listening to my Tidal (Spotify) playlist and relishing the Mediterranean dishes at the pool. Pulled away only to have intermittent alfresco massages that melted away any stress that I had from my day-to-day.
At night I could hear the music from Scorpios which I did end up going to one evening but only to visit Caravana boutique located just at the entrance. Never missing a chance to pick up a one of their handcrafted pieces created in their workshop in Valladolid (Mexico). I absolutely love these pieces because they work and can be worn in any idyllic setting. Their ethos is tradition and sustainability, right up my alley!
“Each piece has meaning and purpose revealing magical and mysterious ways the wisdom of our ancestors. CARAVANA studies the ancient knowledge of the shamans and incorporates those concepts into all the pieces. The search for culture provides each garment with functionality, meaning, and magic.” – CARAVANA
The Roc House gets its name from the sounding rocks down by the sea. To get there you have to follow a rocky trail down the light-colored Grecian rocks to a wooden pontoon. The view is breathtaking.
If you want to stay here, you will need to purchase a Soho Friends membership. And remember that the house is closed annually between mid-October and mid-April.
WHAT I WORE
Fringe dress / Grey jumpsuit- CARAVANA LAND
Forest green printed top: SACAI
Skirt: ISABEL MARANT
Shoes: NICHOLAS KIRKWOOD
Bag, Belt and Cap: CELINE
Black Shades - SAINT LAUREN
Rose Shades - NATHALIE BLANC PARIS
Hat - MONROWE NYC
Hoop Earrings: CELINE
Jewelry - Family keepsakes
Tell us what you think of this destination or about an amazing sunset you’ve seen.
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WHY I STOPPED DRINKING: PART 1 (THE PHYSICAL)
Join me in self discovery on my journey to quitting alcohol.
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part1 of a 3 part series
My first love was vodka then she eventually betrayed me. She helped me inhibit myself, she gave me courage until she dropped me for a much younger model or should I say liver.
So, I turned to my second love, rum, she is a distant cousin from the Caribbean. She always made me feel warm and fuzzy inside and gave me courage. She just like tequila stood by my side until the day came that I decided to quit them all including my other loves red wine and champagne.
This year marks almost three years that my extended break from drinking alcohol continues. I am going to share with you in this part 1 of a 3 series on my journey giving up alcohol. Beginning with the physical journey, part 2 the emotional journey then part 3 will be the spiritual one. All of the journeys involve personal growth and development and I hope they will inspire you if you have ever thought of giving it up as well.
LET’S Take a break
If you would have told me five years ago that I would be writing this, I would have told you to get outta here. I loved drinking whether it was socially and antisocially.
Like many people during the pandemic, I gave up drinking. which made it easier as there was no societal pressures or questions like are you pregnant. But this journey began long before the pandemic. One evening while scrolling aimlessly through my Facebook feed, I stumbled upon a friend's post who gleefully gloated about being one year alcohol free. Now by no means was she an excessive drinker (nor was I) however for as much as I scoffed at the idea of giving up drinking, deep down inside I was intrigued.
I never thought in a million years that I would ever give up drinking, but it all started in 2021 when I had my last glass of white wine. The world opened back up during a brief respite from the pandemic and I went for a lake side drink with colleagues. As per usual I ordered a glass of wine, had a few sips and felt awful which led me to committing to one of those infamous dry months. However, this particular dry month went on for a few more months which cascaded into a year. Then the break never ended.
why WE broke up
You see, I loved drinking and I wore my alcohol consumption like a badge of honor. Because of this, I was able to overcome my introversion and become the life of the party. However, in my late twenties, I realized that my body had lost its taste for Vodka as I mentioned earlier one of my first loves. I started getting physically ill, so I decided to simply stop having it. Worse yet, as time went on, the same discomfort began manifesting itself with other spirits which I ignored. My body was politely or impolitely telling me that it had had enough.
The effects of alcohol on the body differ not just with how much is ingested, but also with an individual's tolerance level and how long they've been drinking. Facts that I was unaware of at the time.
To be honest I was sick of feeling sick in the name of being “more interesting”. Was it really doing the trick? After a while it simply was not. Late nights and hangovers were becoming increasingly insufferable. It was affecting my productivity, my mood and my overall health. I wanted to show up for myself as my most optimal version and alcohol was not part of that equation. I had decided that enough was enough, that I wanted to live a healthier lifestyle. Once this clicked, continuing the dry months became easier as the next year rolled around.
WHAT I’VE NOTICED
After about six months I noticed that the quality of my sleep vastly improved! My circadian rhythm, that’s the natural, internal process that regulates the sleep–wake cycle and repeats roughly every 24 hours, was thankful at last. I also started getting more compliments on my skin which started to appear brighter and more refreshed. My weight stabilized and my focus became much sharper, probably due in part due to the better sleep I was getting. And one of the other major improvements was my immune system. Even after the pandemic I noticed that in conjunction with my vitamin supplements and clean eating (as best that I can) my immune system was at its peak performance!
Once I started seeing and feeling the benefits to my physical health, going back to alcohol was not an option. I am now obsessed with this new feeling and I don’t want to go back. In other words, the pros are stacking up!
Those are just some of the benefits that I have noticed and there is probably so much more that I don’t even realize is happing within me. I would be remis if I didn’t say that this is my experience, and that alcohol affects each person differently. Some people may be more sensitive to its effects than others. So, rule of thumb is drink in moderation or not at all.
Stay tuned for part 2 where I go into the emotional side of my journey. How I started to understand my relationship to alcohol and how I managed the societal pressures associated with abstinence.
Did you give up alcohol or are thinking about it?
Join the conversation, tell us about your experience in the comments!
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ONE DAY IN: ABU DHABI
Come along with me for a day in Abu Dhabi that will leave you speechless.
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THE PERSIAN GULF
Abu Dhabi is an island in the Persian (Arabian) Gulf located off the coast of the United Arab Emirates. The city's claim to fame is the oil sector, as well as the Formula 1 Etihad Airways Abu Dhabi Grand Prix, which is held towards the end of the year. The city is also known for its commerce as reflected by the skyline’s modern towers and shopping mega centers like the Abu Dhabi and Marina malls. I had no idea what was to come, but I was happy to see this part of the world for the first time. I managed to sandwich ten hours into my three-day trip to Dubai, here’s what happened.
Knowing that I intended to visit the Sheikh Zayed Grand Mosque, the first thing I did was go to the souk in Dubai the day before in order to buy the proper attire for entry. If you don’t know, a souk is a marketplace usually found in northern Africa or the Middle East. This part of the world is modest, so I made sure to have head and shoulder coverings for my visits. This was a welcome change to a lot of destinations I’ve been to, where skin is in.
I set off at 10 a.m. for a 1.5-hour trip with my fantastic guide Abdul from India, who was eager to show the city off. As we approached, I was surprised by how serene it was, despite the jaw-dropping skyscrapers. I mean, even as a big city kid from New York like me was blown away. This is where architects come to have fun I thought!Our first stop was the Louvre Abu Dhabi described as "France’s largest cultural project abroad." Located on Saadiyat Island the museum, inauguration in 2017 (despite some earlier opposition in France and Human Rights violations) is a sister of the famed Louvre Museum in Paris. The structure's super-sized Arabic-inspired canopy, designed by architect Jean Nouvel, is a piece of art in and of itself.
I really enjoyed the curation of the permanent gallery which was smooth and easy to get through. The collection showcased the juxtaposition of different civilizations spanning thousands of years into modern times.
The Emirates Palace, with its majestic entry stairs and flat fountains facing the unusual Etihad Towers, was our next visit. The palace was massive, with a mix of Islamic architectural features and contemporary design.We then continued on to the presidential palace, Qasr Al Watan. This was a sight to behold, so opulent! The palace was solely used for formal functions, like receiving foreign leaders and sessions of the country's supreme council and federal cabinet. But today lucky for us is open to the public.Our next destination, Sheikh Zayed Grand Mosque, was one I was really thrilled about and rushed our guide to get there before sundown. One of the world's largest mosques and one of the first I've ever had the pleasure of seeing. Getting to the actual entrance of the mosque was quite a trip filled with a series of walking escalators. It was amazing when we arrived, an architectural wonder that brilliantly mixes Islamic architecture and design. The inner courtyard is enormous, with minarets and elaborate and exquisite flower mosaic decorations on the floor. Image: Thais Cordeiro
I knew from previous images that I had chosen the right green abaya (a loose-fitting robe worn around the body to cover everything except the face, hands, and feet) and hijab (a headscarf that covers the head and shoulders) to contrast with the eggshell white of my surroundings. When inside beneath the white-marble domes, the mosque features an immense Persian carpet with crystal chandeliers as far as the eye can see. It was spectacular. If you're in Abu Dhabi, this is a must-see.As darkness fell, the ponds along the arcades reflected the mosque's columns, lighting the entire scene. I said a prayer for a friend and goodbye to this magnificent work of art.WHAT I WORE
Jade Abaya - Al DAGHAYA ST. DUBAIBlack silk skirt - REDLEY EXANTUS.Black Leggings - WOLFORDShades - SAINT LAURENTFuchsia Sandals - VINCENZO FERRARAHave you ever been to the Middle East or ever wondered about it? Share in the comments!You might also like these related articles: I KNOW WHAT YOU DID LAST SUMMER: PARIS, I KNOW WHAT YOU DID LAST SUMMER: SPAIN
I KNOW WHAT YOU DID LAST SUMMER: NEW YORK CITY
Take advantage of my insider knowledge of New York City, the pIace I call home.
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HOMECOMING
I've been living overseas for nearly 20 years, and every opportunity to return home to see friends and family in New York City, is always a privilege. Being away for so long turns you into a cross between a tourist and a townie. It's still amusing to me when people ask for recommendations. As you may know New York City is forever evolving and shifting at maximum speed. So that's why I always add a disclaimer, that my tips are my own guilty pleasures. Let me fill you in on what I do when I visit. New places I've found as well as my favorite go-to spots that will never run their course. Come with me!
LOWER EASTSIDE & SOHO
This time, I chose to stay in the Lower Eastside, popularly known as the LES, an area that has changed since I was a child and has experienced a dramatic gentrification since the mid-2000s. Historically it is an immigrant and working-class neighborhood. I reserved a stay at the ultra-hip Ludlow Hotel. Also well-known for their luxurious bathrooms, which have served as a backdrop for incredible content creation by many an influencer. Most rooms offer a balcony with beautiful city views.
What's nice about this neighborhood is there are so many places to eat, like Sweet Chic for fried chicken and waffles, and the night life is on point if you like bar hopping. I always squeeze in a Pilates sesh at New York Pilatesin the morning then hit up Miss Lily’s in Soho for a Jamaican breakfast. Or head uptown to Rose Bakery , Japanese fashion designer Rei Kawakubo’s multi-level concept store Dover Street Market where when I was there a few years ago I snagged my coveted Telfar bag.
BROOKLYN
When I'm in town, I normally go to Williamsburg, Brooklyn, to see my long-time friend Lynda. If I'm lucky, she'll carve out some time from her work schedule, running her own photography and digital video agency Eiger. We usually meet at our fav coffee shop, Depanneur, for croissants and coffee in the sun while catching up. It's a great spot for people watching! Never missing a chance to walk around taking in the ambiance, street art and Manhattan skyline views at Grand Ferry Park. I’ve seen this neighborhood really transform in the past decade, but it still holds its charm with tones of local vintage shops, dive bars and food trucks.
These are just a few of the things I like to do and places I go when I am back home. Stay tuned for more posts about my spots if you love New York as much as I do. I’ll be sure to take notes and share more of my gems with you
WHAT I WORE
Black tank top - CELINEBlack tube skirt - WARDROBE.NYCSnake print silk dress - ZIMMERMANNBlue floral dress - IRO PARISSunglasses - NATHALIE BLANC PARISAll other jewelry - Family keepsakesWHERE I WENT
GRAND FERRY PARKNEW YORK PILATESWHERE I STAYED
LUDLOW HOTEL, 180 Ludlow Street (btwn Houston + Stanton), NY, NY, 10002WHERE I ATE
MISS LILY'S, Avenue A, NY, NY 10009SWEET CHIC, 178 Ludlow Street, NY, NY 10002ROSE CAFE, Dover Street Market, 160 Lexington Avenue, NY, NY 10016DÉPANNEUR, 242 Wythe Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11249Tell us where you like to go and do when you’re in NYC or better yet your own hometown. Share in the comments!You might also like this related article: I KNOW WHAT YOU DID LAST SUMMER: PARIS
I KNOW WHAT YOU DID LAST SUMMER: PARIS
Spend 48 Hours with me in Paris as I take you to some of the places I discovered in my beloved city.
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48 HOURS IN PARIS WITH ME
Paris is up there as one of my absolute favorite cities to visit in the world next to Palermo of course. I love the history, the architecture, the style, and the feeling I get just walking the city streets. When I had my fashion label, I use make the twice a year pilgrimage with the fashion flock to the Premier Vision, a trade show for apparel, lifestyle, and fashion. When I stopped designing, I stopped going.This past summer I decided it was time to return to my beloved city following a 7-year hiatus. I vowed never again would I let such a long time past! I bought my TGV ticket and made the 4-hour ride from Geneva to Gare du Lyon for a weekend. Here’s how it went, follow me…MY ARRIVAL
I decided to stay in the 3rd arrondissement as I had never booked myself in this part of Paris before, not to mention it was near all the places I wanted to visit. This is one of the many parts of town buzzing with cafes, bistros, and galleries. After an intensive search I landed at the wonderfully chic Hôtel National Des Arts et Métiers. The hotel is also one of the few Parisian establishments to be awarded the Eco Label for sustainability.I loved the modern relaxed feel this place had. My room was cozy yet luxuriously decorated plus there was an incredible restaurant downstairs where I had an Italian dinner upon my arrival.
DAY 1
Breakfast was equally as delicious with a great sundrenched terrace where I could have my morning coffee and take in the locals on their way to work.11:00 A.M.
Once my petite-déj was over I made my way towards Rue St. Martin where I wanted to go see the exhibition of Cameroonian artist Enfant Précoce at Galerie Paris Horizon. Upon entering the gallery, I could hear Kanye’s track Fade luring me in which was pretty dope. The artwork was equally as dope. The work was vibrant, abstract, and reminded me of those paintings of Haitian cityscapes I grew up with as a kid. The curation was spot on!12:15 P.M.
I then made my way back towards the hotel where I luckily wrangled a table at the Tunisian restaurant Mabrouk situated on the corner of rue Réaumur and rue St. Martin. This no-frills spot was spot on. I adore north African food and if you do too this is the place for you. I ordered the Merguez grillées and couscous aux 7 épices. The place was packed and after tasting my dish I understood why. I topped it off with the traditional pastry and a piping hot mint tea.2:00 P.M.
Next stop was Centre Pompidou bien sur. I was just a 20-minute walk away from Italian architect Renzo Piano’s postmodern masterpiece. This 'inside-out' building is definitely worth visiting. Plus, it has one of the most spectacular views of Paris!
Check out the Louis Vuitton Women’s Fall-Winter 2019 Show by Nicolas Ghesquière which took place in a replica of the Centre Pompidou, inside the courtyard of the Louvre.6:00 P.M.
I organized to see an old friend who relocated back to Paris from Geneva for drinks at my hotel’s rooftop called the National On (The) Top (open during spring/summer). We caught up and laughed over chilled cocktails until we were starved. 8:00 P.M.
We didn’t have to walk far because only in 5 minutes we were in front of the peptol bismol pink Dalmata Pizzaria. This New Yorker can confirm that the pizza here is on par. And don’t miss out on their take of the classic tiramisu, the vanillamisu. So good.11:00 P.M.
I later then had a night cap at Herbarium bar where they made my non-alcoholic cocktail with their inhouse herb blends. Then off to bed.
DAY 2
Started the day with a coffee and croissant to go on the way to my next stop.11:30 A.M.
Haven’t seen you in years my dear Eiffel Tower! She looked bigger than the world on that glorious sunny day. I walked around taking photos unabashedly like a touristic, enjoying the great emerald lawn stretched out. Still as breathtakingly stunning as the first time I laid eyes on her.
2:00 P.M.
I then had lunch and a stroll on the famed Rue Mouffetard one of Paris's oldest and liveliest neighborhoods situated in the 5th arrondissement. Here I took in the sights of all the street vendors, cute boutiques, and cafes. I walked all the way up to where the street becomes rue Descartes at the crossing of rue Thouin which is predominantly a pedestrian avenue. There was so much to see and eat.
4:00 P.M.
Made my way up to a location which I have never been to and I kicked myself for this having been my first time to the majestic Place du Panthéon. I just love how these monuments are laid out architecturally. Standing in the center, you feel overwhelmingly enveloped by history. The Panthéon was intended as a church to glorify the French monarchy then later transformed into a temple for “Great Men”. It became the last resting place for the great writers, scientists, generals, churchmen, and politicians who have made the history of France. 
5:15 P.M.
It was now time to visit the 150-year-old department store la Samaritaine which had just been renovated and newly unveiled. Along the way I took Pont Neuf which is the oldest standing bridge across the river Seine. Once I arrived, I anticipatingly hopped in the cue to enter the shop, and I have to say it was worth the wait. Now owned by LVMH this luxury store has been under reconstruction since 2015 and was reborn only this year. If you love Art Nouveau style like I do then you will enjoy simply strolling around this building. There were lots to see and eat here.
7:45 P.M.
My next stop was only a 25-minute walk where I arrived just in time for dinner at this sumptuous little eatery Pramil restaurant. Nestled in between the 10th and 11th arrondissement, finding this spot was truly like finding a gem. Packed with locals and with the incredible smells wafting out of the kitchen my friends and I found a table tucked away in the back room. The menu boasted of French cuisine made with fresh products, chosen with care, varied and as much as possible in season. The chef himself Monsieur Alain Pramil took our orders which made the experience ever more personal. The food was excellent, the French don’t miss.MY DEPARTURE
In the morning I returned to my hotel terrasse downstairs for more people watching. I had my coffee and pastries just in time for my uber to the train station. Au revoir Paris et à bien tôt!
WHAT I WORE
Hat - RUSLAN BAGINSKIYTrench coat - HENRIK VIBSKOVVintage Blouse - PURPLE AND GOLD RAINPrinted pants - AMERICAN RETRORed heels - WALTER STIEGERSunglasses - NATHALIE BLANC PARISJeans, belt and bangle earrings - CELINELeather Biker jacket - MAGEBlack leather boots - THE KOOPLESThe Empress Ring - QUIETEST REVOLUTION RINGSAll other jewelry - Family keepsakesWHERE I STAYED
HÔTEL NATIONAL DES ARTS ET MÉTIERS, 243 Rue Saint Martin, 75003 ParisWHERE I ATE AND DRANK
RISTORANTE NATIONAL CUNINA ITALIANALE BAR HERBARIUMPRAMIL, 9 rue du Vertbois 75003 Paris, FranceDALMATA, 8 Rue Tiquetonne, 75002 Paris, FranceTell us about a your favorite city and where we should go when we get there? Have you been to Paris if so where do you like to go there? Share in the comments!You might also like this related article: I know what you did last summer: Spain
I KNOW WHAT YOU DID LAST SUMMER: SPAIN
Find out what this seaside in Catalonia Spain has to offer. check out what I saw, what I ate and what I wore.
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CATALONIA
Last summer a friend of mine asked if I wanted to join her on a road trip to her house in the Catalonia region of Spain. Being that we were in the middle of a pandemic I thought it was a great way not only to get away but also to travel safely. Aside from a few trips to Barcelona I had never been to that part of Spain.We loaded the trunk and hit the road for a 7-hour drive to Coma-ruga, a seaside resort destination about 1-hour south of Barcelona.Upon arrival I was taken by the beautiful stretch of beach.I was able to take daily strolls in the August heat thanks to a handmade straw hat that I picked up while on a trip to the Canary Islands a few years ago. The foliage in Coma-Ruga is incredible. Stunning flowering trees against Spanish architecture with sparsely growing palm trees dotting the beach left me day dreaming. When I wasn’t strolling the surrounding area, I would spend the morning on the sun-drenched beach. Following the long distressing lockdown, it was easy to find a spot in the sand beneath an umbrella where I could read my paperback and listen to my Tidal playlist.
We spent a day in the neighboring port city of Tarragona, with its towering cathedral and roman ruins. We complemented our visit with a gorgeous plate of lobster paella and a chilled glass of white wine.When travel begins to pick up again and if you are looking for a hidden destination outside of the more popular Spanish cities, then consider this region. 
WHAT I WORE
Davis one piece bathing suit - MYRASWIMKaftan - CARAVANA Shades - RETROSUPERFUTUREHat - Local artisanal findJewelry - Family keepsakesWhere I went
TARRAGONA (PROVINCE)WHAT I LISTENED TO
MY 2020 PLAYLIST (TIDAL)MY 2020 PLAYLIST (SPOTIFY)Tell us about a surprising road trip destination you have recently been on. Share in the comments!
WHY I HATE AND LOVE FASHION
Gain insights from my fashion journey, discovering the love-hate relationship that led me to embrace sustainability and find my true voice in the industry.
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Have you ever fallen so out of love with your passion that you started to loath it? Then, join the club. It all started 10 years ago with my passion, Fashion. I found my way back to loving it, but it was a long road.
Redley Exantus collection no.1 (2007) Paris - Photos: Ulysse Frechelin
Fashion has consistently been a source of joy for me. As a teenager I never missed an episode of shows like Behind the Velvet Ropes and Fashion File (if you know you know). I obsessed over designers and their fashion shows. Diligently memorizing the names of all the models who strode the runway. Wondering what life was like on Rue Montaigne in Paris.Understanding early on the influence of style and what a change in appearance could evoke in others. In elementary school my classmates and I would hold fashion-offs for “Dress Down Friday” and I usually won (we wore uniforms the rest of the week). Knowing that I was on to something, I decided to take fashion and style seriously.So, I experimented with my own style. I was conscious that changing the slouch on a jacket or wearing a particular shade of cobalt could change a mood. To me that was powerful. Fashion had captivated me, and I knew it was my calling. Although my mother was having none of it, I secretly put all my efforts into getting there. I enrolled at the Fashion Institute of Technology. Landed a job in fashion and eventually launched my own fashion label.Until the day came when I decided to stop.
Redley Exantus collection no5 (2011) Geneva - Photos: Jess Hoffman / See more from the archives
FINDING MY VOICE AGAIN
This website has been online since the days of my fashion business. Having put in countless hours on building my namesakebrand, the task of letting it go was daunting. The thought of loathing my passion terrified me. With my work “archived” and this blog untouched I went into hibernation.I had to figure out who I was and what I wanted to say. I had to find my voice without my beloved fashion. Asking myself if there would be more to my story.The deception of not “making it” along with the fast pace of fashion made me want off the hamster wheel. Disheartened, I didn’t want to open one fashion magazine, look at any fashion shows or talk about clothes with my fashion peeps.ON HIATUS
During my time away from my passion, the reality was that I could not imagine designing the way that I did in the past.For one, I designed through a Caucasian lens. My clients and most of my models were white European women. Although I put out alluring pieces, there was no diversity around my work. I was hard pressed to find designers that look like me and that I related to.Vanessa Friedman of The New York Times wrote a piece about this. In the article “Fashion’s Racial Divide”, one fashion advisor stated this about fashion schools,“Sometimes I wonder: Are we training people to be Caucasian designers?” … “On the other hand, there is an international fashion business with an international norm, and the bad news is it is westernized and largely Caucasian.”
The lack of diversity in the fashion blogs and magazines I exposed myself to fed into this reality.I also would never waste as much resources as I did. Although I produced locally most of my designs were cut on the bias which requires more fabric leaving more waste.The fashion industry is considered by the UN Conference on Trade and Development, to be the second most polluting industry in the world, just after the oil industry.I was always marred by the idea that as a designer, I too was contributing to the negative impact on the environment. I had a choice to do things differently, but I didn’t. I did not posses the power of refusal.SEEING THE RAY OF LIGHT
When 2012 rolled around I went corporate, taking on a job as an assistant in a completely different industry. Within a few years I join the corporate sustainability team and played a part in the company’s sustainability journey.Instantly I found a new passion.What I was learning was fascinating; How to build a sustainability strategy, draft a human rights policy and how to empower employees to do the right thing. I learned about the complexities of a supply chain and how to prevent child labor within it.Grasping that there was a huge learning curve and confusion about what Sustainabilty actually means, resulted in 2 lessons. One, repairing the damage that has been done can only happen collectively doing what we can. Two, we must not be so hard on ourselves, it’s ok to start now.The world was transforming. Notably the rise of social media and more recently the issues of social justice and sustainability.I noticed that consumers were driving the increased focus on sustainability and beginning to question the general life cycle of their garments. Buzz words like circular economy bubble to the surface and the outrage over Rana Plaza awakened a sleeping beast. It is estimated that only 2% of the world’s manufacturing workers earn a living wage (Source: @thesustainablefashionforum). Circular Economy
I started attending fashion conferences around sustainability and could see an up take by brands on the idea of sustainability, acknowledging that action must be taken. For example, the forming of the Fashion Pact, a global coalition of companies in the fashion and textile industry committed to tackling the industry’s environmental impact. I found this undeniably encouraging to see.IT WAS THERE ALL ALONG
When the desire grew to marry sustainability with my fashion experience, I felt like I finally had something to say. I slowly began sharing my sustainability findings in-between my style posts on my social media. I was surprised at how engaging everyone was with my content. There was a hunger to discover more so I posted more.Allowing myself time to discover another passion brought me right back to my first. It was not how I imagined it would be. It was far greater. I had found a purpose.I could not have imagined this 10 years ago. Accepting that I did not have the answer inadvertently led me to the answer. Letting go, time and maturation was all I needed.
5 takeaways from my journey back to my passion
1. Find your voice outside of your passion.
2. Take a break from your passion, it doesn't mean you failed.
3. Make room for other passions in your life.
4. Trust that your passion will always stay with you.
5. Allow yourself to follow your passion in a new way.
There are no rules!
Have you ever hated your passion at one point in your life and felt lost? If so, tell us how you overcame that. Share in the comments!Related articles: Behind the Woman